Official Wedding Attire Question/Answer/Picture Thread

[archibaldleach]



We're not talking about wearing bermuda shorts to a wedding and asking if it's ok. We're talking about a tie/no tie. This hardly elevates to a permission issue. I have never heard of someone asking for permission to not wear a tie to a wedding.

Yeah. Most have the good sense to wear a tie. My broader point is if he's a guest at something that's a big deal to his friend, it's not about him and his personal preferences are not relevant.

 

[ter1413]



Yeah. Most have the good sense to wear a tie. My broader point is if he's a guest at something that's a big deal to his friend, it's not about him and his personal preferences are not relevant.

But this isn't "personal preference" issue. This is simply a tie/no tie issue.
He isn't coming in combat boots and jeans. He is wearing a suit without a tie.

I have never been to a wedding where every male guess had on suits AND ties. Some did. Some didn't. Some didn't even wear suits.

On my wedding night, I will not sit with my wife to be and say..."WTF....John didn't wear a tie!"

 

[archibaldleach]

Of course it is personal preference. The guy prefers not to wear a tie. How is that not a preference?

I agree that suit without a tie is less egregious than the examples cited. Still, to me the question is never, "What can I get away with?" It is, "What should I do?"

 

[ter1413]

He isn't "getting away" with anything.
There are many men who can look as good or better w/o a tie than some look with a tie.

That aside....I WEAR TIES TO WEDDINGS. Just so that is clear.

I also don't feel that a phone call is needed to confirm if one doesn't want to wear one.
(And I am not talking about specific invite instructions on dress "code.")

 

[suited]



Listen. not wearing a tie to a wedding is not anywhere near a "departure" from the norm if one has a suit on. Not wearing pants IS a departure if one has a suit on.
Having to call the groom/bride and ask.."Is it ok if I don't wear a tie" is just ridiculous.

+1

 

[facet]

Mmm, while I agree calling to ask whether wearing a tie or not isn't necessary and does seem weird, personally, it wouldn't bother me if a guest called me asking whether it's ok or not to wear one.

 

[Superfluous]

Thoughts on these shoes with tuxedo for wedding?


Crockett & Jones Alex

http://www.crockettandjones.com/product/alex-black

or....

Crockett & Jones Beaumont

http://www.crockettandjones.com/product/beaumont-black

 

[BrooksLauren77]

I personally would go with the Alex, but no one outside of Styleforum and similar forums will look down on you for wearing the Beaumont. I personally would wear a super sleek Chelsea boot myself.

 

[ter1413]

I would go with the Alex also.
But if you feel that the Beaumont would be a more versatile shoe after the wedding, go with that.

 

[archibaldleach]

Alex by a mile.

 

[Superfluous]

I'm having trouble locating the Alex for sale.

 

[eglbc]

dbl post

 

[eglbc]



ok so Im going to wear a tie, since im giving a toast.
Question, would indigo tie + pocket square go with a black suit/white shirt? Theres a great shop in pdx with tons of shibori / japanese fabric. After mall shopping I nearly had a meltdown for the quality/price ratio on ties.

or

 

[ter1413]

Wear a blue suit..not black.

 

[eglbc]

All i have is tan seersucker and black. Groom is wearing navy.