Leisurely Loafing
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Not to make light of a serious discussion, but your comment reminds me of Sandler’s Romano Tours bit from SNL. I thought that bit was spot on similar to your comment.I'm obviously not qualified to speak about how to deal with mental health issues and have no background or training in it. I have noticed, however, that some people come into clothing because they feel it has transformative power. Which it does, to some extent. In my time meeting people who are also interested in clothing and learning about their backstories, I sometimes hear about people who started trying to dress better because they were going through a difficult time, such as divorce.
It seems like a difficult line to ride. On the one hand, I do think that dressing well can make you feel better and give you more self-confidence. I imagine I don't have to tell that to a forum of people who enjoy clothes.
On the other hand, the fashion industry basically runs on this allure. "Wear this thing and you can be rugged." "Wear this thing and you can be elegant." Or "wear this thing and you can be an Italian playboy driving in a convertible car through pastoral hills." So on and so forth.
In reality, you buy these clothes and live the same life. Clothes have some power, but not transformative power. If you are dealing with some issue -- perhaps unhappy in marriage, job, or environment -- you will return to that environment, just in fancier clothes. Sometimes, it seems that people ought to address the fundamental reasons they are unhappy and not use clothing as a salve. (I say this as someone who should take a lot of this same advice).
Of course, there's also the issue of accessibility. Apart from the stigma, it's much easier to buy a suit or sport coat than the services of a mental health professional. And insurance doesn't always cover this stuff.
I use clothing to feel better for the day, such as dressing up and getting out of the house to eat at a nice restaurant. But these experiences don't change some of the fundamental issues in my life. I think it's useful to make this distinction between the small joy that clothing can bring, and the transformative power that someone might need to address more important underlying issues.