What is considered dressed up?

[bowtielover]

Ths is in contrast to my prevous tread, what do you guys consider dressed up? I remember in college someone showing up in a nice shirt and slcaks tucked in and people would take notice, for me that's casual. For me being dressed up would mean a nice suit and tie at least. I remember my sons home comming dance recently he had on a nice greay suit and purple shirt with matching tie, as I dropped him off I noticed a lot of polos and button ups with slcaks and one boy in a sweater and cargos. not that everyone should dress as my son dose but I found them to be a far bit casual for the event. For a middle school dance maybe but not high school. It's not like he was the odd man out, I saw plenty of other suits as well. I just think teens need to lear now when to dress where. It's not just teens I notice grown men during church and at weddings and other events that seem to come up short amoung the real men. Am I asking too much, or can anyone else see a problem here? What are your guys opinons?

 

[HomerJ]

Jesus, just let it go.

 

[lithium180]

There are a lot of people who have neither the money nor the leisure time or who don't come from a social or familial class which lends itself to either learning about nice clothes or to affording them. This country has made a lot of bold steps towards fostering egalitarianism in the last 50 years, often at the expense of placing importance on physical appearances. As a result, we have seen a decline in the more rigorous sartorial standards governing the attendance of social functions.

I, for one, see nothing wrong with dressing well or helping friends and family members to learn how to look their best, provided that one has the interest and the MEANS to pursue this hobby. By no means, however, should the fact that many others are ignorant and/or uninterested in such pursuits reflect poorly on their characters.

Different people have different interests, and pining for some lost halcyon days of proper attire involves a fantasy about an epoch which never really existed, one that, at least within the context of our own country, was fraught with what today would be acknowledged as appalling levels of inequality in standards of living and levels of wealth, education and social opportunity. With the breakdown of the more exclusionary social fabric of this world has come the decline of many of the higher standards of appearance which formerly served to bar admittance, at least as regards events like school dances or church gatherings, events which profess to be equally open to all members of the larger social fabric.

Does this mean that one shouldn't dress well, or teach his son how to dress well? It does not. Such interests do not imply a refined elitism, merely an abiding interest in an aspect of life which has become less imperative to social success. Would you prefer that your son grow up in a social environment in which more rigorous standards of dress were expected of him? Many do, and, accordingly, send their children to more costly private schools, schools which reflect their own perceived values. This is provided, of course, that they have the means to do such a thing. Regardless, one should limit the extent to which he judges the habits of young men whose interests and social and familial backgrounds are unknown to him, much as he should limit the extent to which he judges the "realness" of other men based on whether or not they share in his own hobbies.

 

[kwilkinson]

Sorry OP, I couldn't read your post because I couldn't understand a dam nword fi t yu knoew wut i meeen?

 

[dexsteel]

Originally Posted by kwilkinson

Sorry OP, I couldn't read your post because I couldn't understand a dam nword fi t yu knoew wut i meeen?

+1, although I understood what he was trying to say, I think.

 

[SoCal2NYC]

Do I need to create a shortcut to my reality:fantasy ratio comment?