Faux Brummell
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Perhaps ask the bride and groom their preference?
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How much of a stickler should I be?
I've been in this situation. You shouldn't be one at all.
The focus should be on the bride and groom. If you look different than everyone else, the focus shifts to you. And (trust me) nobody there will be thinking "bravo for the groomsman standing up for tradition." They will all be thinking "why does that guy look different." And, if they bother to ask you, what will you say? The groom and his closest friends don't know the rules, but I refuse to debase myself? (Whatever the answer, that's how it'll be heard.)
Haha, thanks for the honest POV. Great point.I've been in this situation. You shouldn't be one at all.
The focus should be on the bride and groom. If you look different than everyone else, the focus shifts to you. And (trust me) nobody there will be thinking "bravo for the groomsman standing up for tradition." They will all be thinking "why does that guy look different." And, if they bother to ask you, what will you say? The groom and his closest friends don't know the rules, but I refuse to debase myself? (Whatever the answer, that's how it'll be heard.)
Hi all, long time lurker, first post. I'm going to be a groomsman in a wedding in a couple of months and we are wearing matching tuxedos. My dilemma is that none of the other wedding party members (groom included) care to follow traditional tuxedo rules. They have all ordered MTM Jos A Bank tuxedos without pant stripe or waist covering. They are wearing bowties, but with standard dress shirts (spread collar, mitered cuffs.) How much of a stickler should I be? I'm already wearing my own existing BB tux because it's better quality and matches closely enough (same lapel style). Should I dumb down my shirt choice and lose the cummerbund/suspenders to match the party?
Hi all, long time lurker, first post. I'm going to be a groomsman in a wedding in a couple of months and we are wearing matching tuxedos. My dilemma is that none of the other wedding party members (groom included) care to follow traditional tuxedo rules. They have all ordered MTM Jos A Bank tuxedos without pant stripe or waist covering. They are wearing bowties, but with standard dress shirts (spread collar, mitered cuffs.) How much of a stickler should I be? I'm already wearing my own existing BB tux because it's better quality and matches closely enough (same lapel style). Should I dumb down my shirt choice and lose the cummerbund/suspenders to match the party?
Getting married in October. For my groomsmen, some own tuxes some don't. Some are black, others are midnight. My tux is black.
What are some thoughts on mixing details like black/midnight, shawl/peak, silver/gold hardware.
Getting married in October. For my groomsmen, some own tuxes some don't. Some are black, others are midnight. My tux is black.
What are some thoughts on mixing details like black/midnight, shawl/peak, silver/gold hardware.
Hi all,
I'm getting married in September and looking for advice on a suit I'd like to have made. We're doing a separate ceremony (private, destination) so the suit is for the party back home which will be outdoors and fairly casual (like a fancy picnic.) I don't have much use for a suit in a professional setting, but would like to be able to get use of it after the wedding, so I'm thinking something more relaxed ie. Neapolitan style in a med gray or mid blue/navy. I'm looking at Spiers McKay right now and wondering if I should consider their full canvas (which only come in two fabric choices) or their half canvas suits (more options). Thoughts?
I'm a big Spier fan. If you think there's some times that you'd want to wear a blazer, give considerable thought to doing a suit with patch pockets, which makes it more blazer-y. Spier themselves do some suits this way. The point of making them this way is that the jacket will work better as a blazer (i.e. worn separate from the matching pants) than a jacket without said patch pockets. It is a less formal style, but the party back home is "fairly casual" as you've said, so it is probably good to go.
Thanks for the input. I actually would prefer one of the patch pocket models, and that's a good point about wearing it as a blazer. Do you think it matters much whether I do full vs half canvas if I don't plan on using the suit in formal business settings? The canvassing is the only reason I'm considering a suit without patch pockets--their full canvas suit doesn't have them.