Advice Sought: Help me out Lawyers and all of SF

[EL72]

Are you really that sensitive that you care about some lame steroids comment?

 

[Kasper]

Originally Posted by EL72

Are you really that sensitive that you care about some lame steroids comment?

Sometimes I also don't find it easy to ignore inappropriate comments such as this in the workplace even if the person is known for being rude.

 

[sho'nuff]

yes, usually it is not the statement that bothers. it is the intent behind it, why is he disrespecting me ?
that bothers. i dont like to disrespected frivolously or any way, unless i find out i have disrespected him earlier in some way

an insulting statement made by a person unknowingly (believe me this can happen)
i can let go and forgive.

 

[Mr. Checks]

Originally Posted by Kasper

Some of the replies remind me of the Seinfeld episode where George is insulted for eating a lot of shrimp at a business meeting. I don't think he handled the situation properly in the episode despite being rudely insulted also.

See post #26

 

[Thomas]

Originally Posted by EL72

Are you really that sensitive that you care about some lame steroids comment?

I wouldn't call it sensitive - that's an ad hominem attack made during a meeting at which Soph was presenting his professional viewpoint. I might have let it slide as he did, but people who derail professional meetings with garbage of that nature should be put in their place.

That said, Soph - you are probably in the minority as far as your build, and that can cause distraction and resentment among your peers and possibly your so-called superiors. That's why I second GT's comments.

 

[j]

Punch him in the face. I don't know why no one mentioned this.

BTW, it's more analogous (compared to the high heel thing) to a woman wearing low cut clothing to show off her cleavage in business situations. It is distracting, and probably not that professional. Professional dress should even the playing field to some extent. Wimpier people's suits (like me) make them look more powerful, while more physically imposing people's dress should deemphasize their physicality to allow their business sense/brain/etc to be the focus of their presentation.

That is, unless your company is selling the Total Gym on TV or something.

 

[vanity]

I normally take the steroids comments as a compliment. It means your hard work is paying off, you're getting bigger. Let them think as they wish.

 

[LA Guy]

Roll with it. There is nothing that makes people want to poke at you more than an over-reaction to teasing. Obsessing over this type of stuff is the opposite of cool. Do you think that Bullit would give a **** if someone told him that his turtleneck sucked?

Of course, you could probably try to intimidate him, but in my experience and from observation, people often react to intimidation in unexpected ways. And seeing that the coworker probably probably will not feel physically intimidated in a work situation (it's not the street or a bar, after all,) you'd probably come off looking and feeling pretty impotent.

Lastly, and this is a genuine question: were you particular aggressive in making your point? If you were, that might have been the cause for the comment (rather than your build alone.) In this case, you might examine whether you should change your delivery.

Edit: I'm no lawyer, but I'd bet good money that you have no legal recourse here.

 

[Quirk]

Originally Posted by LA Guy

Edit: I'm no lawyer, but I'd bet good money that you have no legal recourse here.
I dunno -- making comments about a co-worker's body with an attempt to demean and/or control them? Sounds like sexual harrassment to me. That would be pretty cool revenge -- getting him summoned to a meeting with HR to respond to charges of sexually harrassing a male co-worker. Bastard would never live it down.