How to Avoid Looking Feminine - Advice Thread

[macuser3of5]

Hey,

Can anyone help me not look feminine? I'm trying update my wardrobe and project a more studied, masculine image. Last night I was wearing a pair of black tapered velvet pants with shiny zippers (MARC JACOBS), a semi-sheer low v shirt (AMERICAN APPAREL), and some silver suede sneakers (EMMA HOPE). One of my friends, upon meeting up at a popular bar/grill to eat (BUFFALO WILD WINGS), said I looked a bit femme and he didn't want me to wingman that night. :/ None of the HB's gave me a second look and i got a lot of disinterest indicators/***** sheilds thrown my way.

I thought I was making some good purchase choices lately, but I guess not? Has this happened to anyone else? Can anyone provide some image references of what constitutes feminine/not-feminine. He said I should get some simple flannels, one-wash straight-leg or bootcut denims and less ostentatious shoes.

 

[Lane]

why so hung up on something like that? Most people are ******* stupid when it comes to clothes so they automatically assume you're gay/metro.

 

[KitAkira]

Wear tighter pants so everyone can see what kind of heat you're packing. Also, moar dragons

 

[justsayno]

grow some balls and show up in a burgundy velvet hacking smoking jacket

 

[Ideefixee]

See, I hate these kinds of gender roles. Fashion isn't about subscribing to a pre-set 'idea' of what men should or shouldn't wear (to a certain extent). Probably the main reason others will view that kind of outfit as 'femme' is ignorance, or misunderstanding.

See, it's not about what you're wearing; it's how you wear it. I've seen guys pull off wicked 'femme' outfits (or outfits that are generally esteemed to be 'femme' or unmanly) merely due to their personality or self-confidence when wearing them.

If you, and only you, want to start wearing more man-approved clothing items, then I say go ahead and do it. But I don't agree that you should do so only because others have made comments about your apparel. If you have a good sense of who you are, and wear outfits accordingly, then who gives a s*&% what a few skanks think of what you're wearing?

Trust me, a good girl will understand your outfit once she understands you as a person, and would never want you to change.

 

[Brosef]

Inb4 Uncontrol

 

[ConcernedParent]

If you want to avoid it, have you considered dressing like a dude?

Seriously, unless you live in NYC or LA, or Paris/London or something... nobody is going to understand and you're going to scare away most people.

 

[*Tee*]

You guys suck at sarcasm and irony.

 

[Guyute]

I'm a newb here and I knew this was a mock thread from title and user alone. Well played though.

 

[ConcernedParent]

Originally Posted by *Tee*

You guys suck at sarcasm and irony.

Except that a ton of people here wear nuthugging **** and wonder why nobody wants to sit near them.

The nonono you NEED to size down two more mentality here is such lolz.

 

[CharlieAngel]

lulz

Try ed hardy, show some chest hair, add some bling, and say "bro" alot.

 

[Rosenberg]

Yeah I saw this coming after the "manbag strap width"

 

[clarksdb]

Originally Posted by ConcernedParent

If you want to avoid it, have you considered dressing like a dude?

Seriously, unless you live in NYC or LA, or Paris/London or something... nobody is going to understand and you're going to scare away most people.

lol true

 

[Listi]

You're obviously not pretty enough to pull off the femme look.

You need to be hotter.

 

[Monaco]

Originally Posted by macuser3of5

Hey,

Can anyone help me not look feminine? I'm trying update my wardrobe and project a more studied, masculine image. Last night I was wearing a pair of black tapered velvet pants with shiny zippers (MARC JACOBS), a semi-sheer low v shirt (AMERICAN APPAREL), and some silver suede sneakers (EMMA HOPE). One of my friends, upon meeting up at a popular bar/grill to eat (BUFFALO WILD WINGS), said I looked a bit femme and he didn't want me to wingman that night. :/ None of the HB's gave me a second look and i got a lot of disinterest indicators/***** sheilds thrown my way.

I thought I was making some good purchase choices lately, but I guess not? Has this happened to anyone else? Can anyone provide some image references of what constitutes feminine/not-feminine. He said I should get some simple flannels, one-wash straight-leg or bootcut denims and less ostentatious shoes.

Post up a picture of your outfit that night, then we can help you.