Starting over. Where shoud I move to?

[impolyt_one]

If I was in the same situation, and liked white girls, I'd roll a dice and pick one of the large midwestern college towns.

 

[Piobaire]

I would do one of two things. I would either move out West to a city that is growing or move to the Rust Belt to a city that is either in decline or had/having hard times.

West: Vegas, Santa Fe, Albequerque, Phoenix, Denver to name a few.

Rust Belt: Detroit, Cleveland, Pittsburgh to name a few.

What they both have in common is a great palate to totally reinvent yourself and that sounds like what you want to do.

 

[impolyt_one]

In my opinion, a man's reinvention is not a prescribed, controlled thing where you just buy a bunch of new clothes and a haircut and start on day 1; it's a natural thing, and if you're talking about building up the psyche or healing a hurting one - it's cliche, but it's nothing a bunch of easy lays can't cure. You obviously need to keep a realistic hold on yourself and remember what reality is, but getting far away, maybe taking it easy and not challenging yourself at first might be best.
Moving around when you're young is easy, moving around as an adult is less easy. Takes time to settle in. I have been moving around all my life, literally every year since I was a pre-school kid. Moved just a couple months ago and it's beginning to hit me a lot harder this time, I think because I'm getting older and I am done working on myself, I'm happy with what I've become, at least as a base. Now i'm just more worried about taking care of my people. Having just moved from a city where I felt Iike I'd mastered a lot of its facets, could get and do anything I wanted - my new surroundings are big, a little daunting at times.... so i think if OP was just looking to have some fun times, maybe get back in touch with his core self, then maybe shooting fish in a barrel wouldn't be a bad idea.

 

[Ambulance Chaser]

How old are you? What do you do?

Those are two major constraints on any answer.

 

[Kid Nickels]

Holy I can't BELIEVE two people actually recommended Cleveland! OP just got out of a long-term relationship....we want him to revive & reinvent himself.... not die a thousand deaths in the Midwest's 2nd most depressing city! (Sorry Detroit)

 

[Piobaire]



Holy I can't BELIEVE two people actually recommended Cleveland! OP just got out of a long-term relationship....we want him to revive & reinvent himself.... not die a thousand deaths in the Midwest's 2nd most depressing city! (Sorry Detroit)

I also mentioned Detroit.

Seriously, nothing like the melancholy pervading a failing rust belt city for someone that just got out of a long term relationship.

 

[Lord-Barrington]

I'll offend a lot of people by saying this, but...:

I wouldn't live in any other American city but San Diego, Denver, Seattle, Portland, Boston, NYC, San Francisco, or Chicago (and maybe a couple more I have forgotten). People can say what they want about how Cleveland and Cincinnati are "up and coming cities" or how Phoenix and Scottsdale are a great "bang for the buck" but the fact of the matter is that second tier cities like that suck. They're sprawled out, they have little in the way of culture, the culinary scene is usually garbage, and you'll lose touch with the finer things in life the minute you settle down.

Life is too short to live in crappy cities, no matter what you might try to tell yourself.

 

[Piobaire]



I'll offend a lot of people by saying this, but...:
I wouldn't live in any other American city but San Diego, Denver, Seattle, Portland, Boston, NYC, San Francisco, or Chicago (and maybe a couple more I have forgotten). People can say what they want about how Cleveland and Cincinnati are "up and coming cities" or how Phoenix and Scottsdale are a great "bang for the buck" but the fact of the matter is that second tier cities like that suck. They're sprawled out, they have little in the way of culture, the culinary scene is usually garbage, and you'll lose touch with the finer things in life the minute you settle down.
Life is too short to live in crappy cities, no matter what you might try to tell yourself.

Lulz @ Portland or Denver being in a higher tier than Scottsdale. Portland = 97% white. Right there it's hard to recommend.

 

[Lord-Barrington]



Lulz @ Portland or Denver being in a higher tier than Scottsdale. Portland = 97% white. Right there it's hard to recommend.

Scottsdale is a terrible place to live unless you are interested in retirees and golf. Portland wouldn't be my first choice but at least they have interesting restaurants and you can move around without spending $500 on gas every month.

As I said, you can tell yourself whatever you want but there are only a handful of cities in the US that can offer enough for someone who has even a passing interest in art, culture, good food, etc.

 

[Kid Nickels]



I'll offend a lot of people by saying this, but...:
I wouldn't live in any other American city but San Diego, Denver, Seattle, Portland, Boston, NYC, San Francisco, or Chicago (and maybe a couple more I have forgotten). People can say what they want about how Cleveland and Cincinnati are "up and coming cities" or how Phoenix and Scottsdale are a great "bang for the buck" but the fact of the matter is that second tier cities like that suck. They're sprawled out, they have little in the way of culture, the culinary scene is usually garbage, and you'll lose touch with the finer things in life the minute you settle down.
Life is too short to live in crappy cities, no matter what you might try to tell yourself.

I grew up in Cincinnati and did my undergrad in Cleveland!! How dare you!! haha... I don't disagree with you in the least... in fact b/c of my preference for warm weather I couldn't see myself living anywhere in the US but LA or San D.

 

[ZhiMingBuFanDe]

Time seems to move slower in San Diego...

 

[Kid Nickels]



Time seems to move slower in San Diego...

yeah it does... reminds me of Australian beach culture.... like "no worries mate!" kinda vibe.

 

[Svenn]

I wouldn't live in any other American city but San Diego, Denver, Seattle, Portland, Boston, NYC, San Francisco, or Chicago (and maybe a couple more I have forgotten). People can say what they want about how Cleveland and Cincinnati are "up and coming cities" or how Phoenix and Scottsdale are a great "bang for the buck" but the fact of the matter is that second tier cities like that suck. They're sprawled out, they have little in the way of culture, the culinary scene is usually garbage, and you'll lose touch with the finer things in life the minute you settle down.
Life is too short to live in crappy cities, no matter what you might try to tell yourself.

I agree with this except, and maybe I'm just tired of the PNW, but I really don't think Seattle and Portland belong in the same category as Boston or NYC. There's a lot of 'counter' culture in the PNW but that's about it... just as an example, there's only 1 medical school in all of washington and 1 in oregon, and only a couple more law schools- in boston and nyc there are dozens, that are the best in the world, so you get a much higher concentration of highly educated young people. Yes there are a scattering of hip/classy restaurants, but they tend to be imitative of something you'd see on the east coast anyway.

To me, being able to split my time between a very rural and very urban location would be ideal... nothing in between.

 

[impolyt_one]



How old are you? What do you do?
Those are two major constraints on any answer.

If you think about it, and if you really take this whole 'reinvention' thing literally - neither would matter.

 

[Jamesgatz]

Seconding PSguy, how about moving abroad? Netherlands, for example, has a lot to offer. There's a guy over at WAYWRN who could you a few tips about local sense of style etc.