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Never diddle the secretary:A public service announcement from GQGeek

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by GQgeek, May 11, 2006.

  1. GQgeek

    GQgeek Well-Known Member

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    You should be ashamed, only a real wanker hits a woman. I hope this isn't what they taught in the IDF.

    In general I wouldn't agree with it, but I have a feeling GT would have to be pushed pretty far since he's always seemed like a very good-natured guy to me.

    What would you do if a crackhead woman was attacking you on the metro(where you couldn't just walk away)? I actually saw this happen on a 1am train a couple of months back. For no reason she started picking a fight with a random guy. He tried ignoring her but she wouldn't let-up. She had actually followed him from the platform onto the train. She started throwing stuff at him and pulling at his clothes trying to instigate him and eventually started kicking him (although tiny little crackhead kicks heh). She was TRYING to get him to hit her. He had done absolutely nothing to provoke her. He took a lot of shit and gave her several warnings before he finally threw her on the ground. Nobody objected and I'm pretty sure everybody was pretty happy to see her get what was coming to her.

    God help any woman that messes with MY clothes!
     
  2. Bunter

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    In general I wouldn't agree with it, but I have a feeling GT would have to be pushed pretty far since he's always seemed like a very good-natured guy to me.

    What would you do if a crackhead woman was attacking you on the metro(where you couldn't just walk away)?...



    Maybe I'm wrong but it didn't seem like the most extreme situation (crackhead...) was implied in his post.
     
  3. Saucemaster

    Saucemaster Well-Known Member

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    What's with all this mortification over potentially striking someone who's female? GT said he'd have no problem doing it "if [he] needed to", and while this may be a stupid assumption, on reading GT's posts over the last few months I'm pretty sure that he's talking about imminent bodily harm.

    Am I the only person who finds this revulsion at the idea of hitting a woman sexist? I'm dead serious here. If someone is actively trying to hurt me, then unless there's really, truly no serious danger to me, I'm willing to hit them. It's simple self-defense. Unless you think that women are simply not capable of being physical threats (in which case I submit that you just haven't met the right women), this should go just as much for women as for men.

    On the other hand, if someone's not actually threatening you, it doesn't matter whether they're a woman or a man. In any case, I don't see how gender matters at all.
     
  4. GQgeek

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    What's with all this mortification over potentially striking someone who's female? GT said he'd have no problem doing it "if [he] needed to", and while this may be a stupid assumption, on reading GT's posts over the last few months I'm pretty sure that he's talking about imminent bodily harm.

    Am I the only person who finds this revulsion at the idea of hitting a woman sexist? I'm dead serious here. If someone is actively trying to hurt me, then unless there's really, truly no serious danger to me, I'm willing to hit them. It's simple self-defense. Unless you think that women are simply not capable of being physical threats (in which case I submit that you just haven't met the right women), this should go just as much for women as for men.

    On the other hand, if someone's not actually threatening you, it doesn't matter whether they're a woman or a man. In any case, I don't see how gender matters at all.


    I think it's partly a community thing. People posting here want to be liked and thought of as "gentlemen", even if it is just the internet. Advocating the use of violence against women (and in some cases that term is used in a very liberal context) is not something that generally reconciles with gentlemanly behavior. Nor does calling one a bitch for that matter.

    I'd like to think we're beyond that here and I admire gt for sticking his neck out ;p
     
  5. Bunter

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    What's with all this mortification over potentially striking someone who's female?

    Maybe it has to do with the not so uncommon occurrence of a bloke coming home from the pub to slap his wife around for a couple hours.

    It's taboo, aye mate? Talk about mortification on the children's faces...
     
  6. acidboy

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    hormone might be the key here. perhaps she's taking something that givers her mood swings? or perhaps its the 1st day of her 'time of the month'? in any case, why don't you send a picture of her and let us be the judge of this. [​IMG]
     
  7. Saucemaster

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    Maybe it has to do with the not so uncommon occurrence of a bloke coming home from the pub to slap his wife around for a couple hours. It's taboo, aye mate? Talk about mortification on the children’s faces...
    Except that we're not talking about that unfortunately common occurence. I am 100% sure that everyone who has posted so far is against beating one's spouse. Taboos are nothing but institutionalized irrationality. Actions need reasons. EDIT: Sorry to get off-topic, GQG. I wish you the best tomorrow--that's a horrible situation to be in. At least you know that other people have had it worse, like Tokyo Slim. Not saying that's a comfort, per se.
     
  8. Teacher

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    Am I the only person who finds this revulsion at the idea of hitting a woman sexist?

    No you are not. To extend this, I have no problem using fantastic language with a woman (or man) who deserves it. I don't treat women like they're delicate, helpless little creatures made of spun sugar.

    Eeeeeeeeeeexactly.
     
  9. Bunter

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    Except that we're not talking about that unfortunately common occurence. .

    What are we talking about mate? One minute it's about a "little ...." in the office raising her voice, the next it's GT saying "I would have no problem hitting a woman, if I needed to." Aye. Excuse me if to my limey ear "needed to" didn't come off as self defense, especially in context of the discussion. Often I've needed a pint but I can't think of one instance in my life that I needed to hit a woman

    I am 100% sure that everyone who has posted so far is against beating one's spouse.

    I hope so mate, I hope so...
     
  10. Arethusa

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    I think you misunderstood globe. The impression I got is that he applies the same standards to hitting a woman that he would to hitting a man, not that he'll just hit his wife if he feels like it. One is abuse; the other is equality.

    That is, at least, how I feel about it. Hitting a woman is no more wrong than hitting a man.
     
  11. globetrotter

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    I think you misunderstood globe. The impression I got is that he applies the same standards to hitting a woman that he would to hitting a man, not that he'll just hit his wife if he feels like it. One is abuse; the other is equality.

    That is, at least, how I feel about it. Hitting a woman is no more wrong than hitting a man.



    boy, I go away for a few minutes.....

    thank you, A, this is exactly my point.

    yes - I don't go around hitting men for no reason, or women. but if I had to hit a man, or a woman, I would. not having a penis doen't give you a get out of jail card.

    if a person acts in a unacceptable manner, whether a man or a woman, I would address them in a similar manner. the question asked was "Do you guys really think that no matter what a "lady" (and I use the term loosely for someone that behaves as she did) does that you should always just take it?"

    It would take a lot to get me to raise a fist to somebody over a verbal offense, but I cannot say that I wouldn't responsd the same way to a man or a woman. certainly, if a woman were to bring violence to me, I would respond in a similar way that I would to a man. in terms of a more realistic scenario - were a woman to address me in an abusive manner, I would probrably responsd in the same tone that I would address a man who so addressed me.

    you are more than welcome to feel differently, but I am guessing that that would be indicative of a lack of experience more than a wealth of chivalry.
     
  12. Tokyo Slim

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    I like how everyone attacks Globetrotter when I said it first.

    [​IMG]

    And no, I don't advocate the beating of your wife, nor do I advocate the beating of your husband.
     
  13. globetrotter

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    I like how everyone attacks Globetrotter when I said it first.

    [​IMG]

    And no, I don't advocate the beating of your wife, nor do I advocate the beating of your husband.



    dude, in 2 years I don't think we have had as much in common as in the last 24 hours. [​IMG]
     
  14. Tokyo Slim

    Tokyo Slim Well-Known Member

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    Maybe you are lucid dreaming.
     
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    Do you guys really think that no matter what a "lady" (and I use the term loosely for someone that behaves as she did) does that you should always just take it?

    Just take it?

    You called her a bitch becuase it made you feel good. Not beucase you thought it get her react how you wanted, and not becuase you felt it was better than taking it. You displayed the same type of behavior she did. The worst communicators are always the people who say what they want to say, not what other people need to hear.
     
  16. Charley

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    You've got troubles.
    Get your resume ready to go.
    But get one more bit of that ink on your pen before you go.
    Bring back the three martini lunch.

    Some time ago the lady(?) who published Cosmo related her early office experiences. Fridays were something like "underwear" day. The guys ran the girls down and checked out what they were wearing. Pretty over the top and certailny unacceptable - but that is how it went in an earlier era. The girls were all very careful to wear their best on Fridays.
     
  17. Steve B.

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    being the loose cannon and all, I know I'll catch shit for this...

    <===== dipped pen in company ink MANY times. No worries, maybe they were all hippie chicks.
     
  18. Tokyo Slim

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    being the loose cannon and all, I know I'll catch shit for this... <===== dipped pen in company ink MANY times. No worries, maybe they were all hippie chicks.
    Here's some shit Steve... catch it! Way to be a role model for the kids dude. Hippy chicks all turned into yuppie wives who taught their daughters how to work the system to get what they want. In this case it would be GQ's balls on a platter, his job, and all his money. Somehow this all works out to being Steve's fault in the end. Not to mention the fact that poor GQ's resume will have a big ass blank spot on it, cause he won't be able to use anyone higher up in this company as a reference... for fear of the sexual harassment issue coming up. Way to ruin our society, damn hippies.
     
  19. Nantucket Red

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    Don't get your meat where you get your bread.
     
  20. Violinist

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    corporate office....

    is there a history of sexual harassment at this company??
     

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