My dad died on Wednesday

[acidboy]

Originally Posted by emptym

No, about 8 yrs ago. He's had 3 heart attacks and two strokes. Fortunately, one stroke happened right outside the hospital. He was there for treatment after having stints put in. He just turned around and walked (stumbled) back in. The other happened when he was home with my mom. That one was pretty massive. My mom called an ambulance. We live about 1 mile away from the hospital. He had some damage for about 6 months, but is 90-something percent now. My mom aged a lot though because of it...

whoa, when my dad got shot almost 20 years ago the thought of losing someone in an instant was overwhelming emotionally. hope your dad has more miles in his tank. (my dad survived the gunshot, thankfully, and we're still pissing each other off

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Originally Posted by Teacher

It's natural for us to have these guilty feelings after we lose someone close to us, or even when reminded of these people's mortality. After my brother's suicide in January, I rode myself very, very hard for not being a better big brother and protecting him. I sank into a pretty nasty depression that I'm still clawing my way out of (I'm going to see a shrink on Monday, months later than I should have). But I've learned that we should, as much as we can, focus on the positive. Pining for what never happened won't change anything, but warm memories can soften these difficult times and begin the healing.

wow, teach. I sincerely hope you get over your loss soon.

 

[Teacher]

Originally Posted by acidicboy

wow, teach. I sincerely hope you get over your loss soon.

Unfortunately it doesn't work that way, but thanks sincerely for the sentiment.

 

[JayJay]

Originally Posted by Teacher

Unfortunately it doesn't work that way, but thanks sincerely for the sentiment.
All the best....

 

[haganah]

Not sure how much it means to offer my condolences, but you have them. I had to deal with a death recently and I think the best advice given to me was to do good in times of bad. It's really a great way to honor someone by helping others out, or to change something you do on a daily basis, no matter how small, that really is a positive change in honor of your father.

 

[Aries]

Please accept my condolences.

Originally Posted by haganah

Not sure how much it means to offer my condolences, but you have them. I had to deal with a death recently and I think the best advice given to me was to do good in times of bad. It's really a great way to honor someone by helping others out, or to change something you do on a daily basis, no matter how small, that really is a positive change in honor of your father.

Sounds like great advice.

 

[NorCal]

My condolences to you and your family.

 

[rjmaiorano]

Originally Posted by haganah

Not sure how much it means to offer my condolences, but you have them. I had to deal with a death recently and I think the best advice given to me was to do good in times of bad. It's really a great way to honor someone by helping others out, or to change something you do on a daily basis, no matter how small, that really is a positive change in honor of your father.

Agree in both aspects. My condolences mean little; yet I do hope you morn as it is a part of grieving. It is natural.

And to better ones self in the name of someone you cared a great deal about is a wonderful thing; to help others is that much greater.

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I consider myself young; and because of events in my life as well as candid shows of emotion like this thread, I've headed the advice of those older and wiser than I and taken time to appreciate my family. I am a better person for it. Appreciating those around you makes life that much better.

 

[mustard]

My condolences buddy.

 

[Hombre Secreto]

You really don't know what you have until it's gone. My condolences.

 

[Surfrider]

I know it doesn't mean much, coming an intangible persona that, as far as you are concerned, is nothing more than a small jumble of pixels, but know that I am truly sorry for your loss, sir.

 

[oroy38]

I'm very sorry to hear this, and my condolences go out to you and your family. Nothing we say can possibly assuage the sadness you feel, but know that there are others who know the way you feel and sympathize with you.

My grandfather recently passed away, and he's the one that taught me all that it was to be a gentleman when I was a young boy. Everything from etiquette, how to dress, and how to live life. I've never really appreciated my father all that much, but after he passed away I quickly realized that he won't be around forever, and I also realized how much he's done for me. I agree with your sentiments to cherish every moment with your father, or mother for that matter. We don't really appreciate things until we've lost them. Just because they've been around forever doesn't mean they will be. A sad truth of life, but one we must take in stride.

 

[the.chikor]

My sincere condolences Bob. I had the same thing happen to me about a year and a half ago, but, thankfully, my father survived and recovered. Thank you for sharing with us.

 

[MarquisMagic]

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.