Girl Issues, Need Advice vol. infinity

[bosatlbwi]

Originally Posted by HgaleK

Looking at the post, I should clarify. It's way harsher than it needed to be. Every time I see another guy in a situation like this it reminds me of how it felt being in that place. I'm probably projecting my problems on you, which isn't cool.

When I made a comment similar to yours, I was in a pretty awful place. I had very little confidence in myself and couldn't see why someone would possibly be interested in me. I missed so many opportunities, and spent so much time kicking ****** because I wouldn't change the behaviour. I got advice similar to the above and it was a step in the right direction. I made a lot of mistakes while figuring things out, and I'm still making mistakes, but I wouldn't wish the feeling of being undesirable on anybody, and it looks like you're in the same hole. The only way to get out of it is to actually try.

my thanks should have been adorned with a (0) because it was totally serious. the above pretty much describes me right now. i appreciate it.

 

[HgaleK]

Originally Posted by AR_Six

Imagine yourself saying what you're posting to a buddy irl. Does it make you sound like a bit of a dbag? If so...
I'm sure I sound like a douche, but that's standard lingo when giving a buddy a pep talk unless he's it's a serious situation. We say way worse to each other IRL is someone is *****ing out over talking to a girl. Given that this is the Internet and the dude and I aren't buddies, and his problems seem to extend deeper than just talking to a girl, the language isn't productive.

 

[Lane]

just drink more mikey, it does wonders for me

 

[kwilkinson]

Originally Posted by Lane

just drink more mikey, it does wonders for me

Fuckin a right, player. A man after my own heart.

 

[bosatlbwi]

Originally Posted by Lane

just drink more mikey, it does wonders for me

no way.

I've been down that road.

Doesn't end well.

My biggest struggle has been finding that balance between buzzed/drunk and blackout.

 

[Lane]

learn to control your liquor and not become a typical college douchebag. Just find a good stopping point, and stay there regardless of people egging you on. What I usually do is have a cup with alcohol in it, even though im no longer drinking anymore. It just makes you seem "normal" to the lemmings.

 

[kwilkinson]

Originally Posted by mike868y

no way.

I've been down that road.

Doesn't end well.

My biggest struggle has been finding that balance between buzzed/drunk and blackout.

Blacking out gives you at least a few hours relief from whatever ails you.

 

[bosatlbwi]

Originally Posted by Lane

learn to control your liquor and not become a typical college douchebag. Just find a good stopping point, and stay there regardless of people egging you on. What I usually do is have a cup with alcohol in it, even though im no longer drinking anymore. It just makes you seem "normal" to the lemmings.

yeah as the year has progressed I've gotten a lot better at controlling myself (when I want too).

 

[Lane]

girls dont like when youre insanely drunk anyways, unless they themselves are too.

 

[mkarim]

Originally Posted by mike868y

yeah as the year has progressed I've gotten a lot better at controlling myself (when I want too).

The first step would be to change your social circle.

 

[Dakota rube]

Originally Posted by kwilkinson

Blacking out gives you at least a few hours relief from whatever ails you.

 

[Eason]

I've never blacked out. Though, I've also never been a pathetic failure with women.

 

[kwilkinson]

Originally Posted by Eason

I've never blacked out. Though, I've also never been a pathetic failure with women.

I'm not a pathetic failure. To be a failure you actually have to try.

 

[Eason]

Nope, not true. The worst failures are the guys who don't even try, they say things like "idgaf" online. These people are the taint-smell of the Earth.

 

[VelvetGreen]

Originally Posted by mike868y

Not really looking for any advice, I just need to say/type this somewhere and I don't want to sound like a pathetic **** in front of my friends.

so freshman year has been a failure of epic proportions with regards to women for me, but whatever, idgaf.
The other night I finally meet this girl that seems chill as hell, we hangout a bit, whatever. Details are a little blurry but she seemed really cool and I think we got along well. Didn't get her number because the night ended weird (power trip RA tweaked on a bunch of us), but anyway I want to hang out with her again but it's the end of the semester and I'm not sure if I'll see her at all this year (she said she doesn't go out much) and it just pisses me off.

well I guess I'd rather sound like a pathetic **** to strangers on sf than to my friends.

You do give a ****. You're a freshman. It's patently obvious. Take some responsibility for your own emotional + sexual wellbeing. You've failed because you haven't tried hard enough, and if you don't get some experience, it will damage you.

Balls. Grow some. Send her a message on FB, do coffee to find out if she's worth your time. You're not proposing marriage, remember. If she says no, great, she wasn't interested in the first place and you can move on to another.

Stop being a pathetic weed. Your gut feeling is correct. You would look like a tit in front of your friends. Hit the gym. Man up. Since your family genes have passed through hundreds of generations to make you who you are, you obviously have it in you to get the gurls. Don't get obsessive and broody over this. Just bite the bullet.